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Topic: How Does Your Family Feel?, How do your nearest/dearest feel about your 'dark side'?
TalN
The Puchan Quark


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Posted: July 03 2002,3:45 pm

Columbine that got me thinking.  In public school I realize I had some really good teachers and a few disgracefully incompetant ones.  Even had one principal that was fantastic.  But all the guidance counselors seem to be in a different world!  Full of unimaginative BS.  I can just imagine what my last one would have done if confronted with one of us. :skull5:  I was incognito in the extreme, but she and I STILL had a few confrontations.

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Columbine
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Posted: July 03 2002,7:06 pm

TaLN - actually an elementary-school guidance counselor was my first inkling that there might be worthwhile grownups in schools.  He was fun, honest, and genuinely liked me - I always looked forward to my meetings with him.

I guess, as in any profession, there are by-the-bookers who are doing it because it's what they hate least, and imaginative people who are doing it because it's what they love most...

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Phoenix Rising
Lost Soul


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Posted: July 05 2002,3:23 am

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Quote: from Maiken on 12:07 pm on June 16, 2002
   
I'll be going off to college in September--does anyone live in the Seattle/Olympia area? I've never been there and I don't know anybody!

Maiken, I live in Seattle.  :)


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Maiken
High Necromancer


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Posted: July 08 2002,11:06 pm

Definitely know where you guys are coming from on the school authority figures scene--I was nearly expelled from school on the tip of an ANONYMOUS caller that I was "casting spells in school" (I of course did no such thing!) I was definitely very careful to keep my religious views tucked safely away after that one.

Phoenix--hooray! :jump: I'm so glad there are other "dark souls" out there! BTW, *love* your quote--Etheridge is DA BOMB!

:rose:

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Lucian
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Posted: July 20 2002,4:13 pm

Greetings.

Very few of my friends know about my dark desires and none of my family know. Most of my family thinks I'm weird enough as it is because I don't follow one of the accepted belief systems. I don't feel bad about hiding my true nature from others. When I used to reveal my feelings at work or home, I would get strange looks or my parental units would get all concerned that I'm involved in fantasy too much. Sure it pains me not to be able to share my loves with my family. But I've found that it pains them to hear about it. They aren't emotionally ready for it and I've come to accept that.

Besides, if I need some place to express myself, there's always Westgate! :asthanos:

Dark Blessings Eternal :light:

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Leilah
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Posted: July 20 2002,7:50 pm

That's kind of sad, Lucian, that you have no one around you who is open enough to listen and accept you for who you are REGARDLESS of your personal beliefs.

They will get use to it though, once they realize it isn't a "phase", and THEN they'll start asking you all kinds of questions.

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danial
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Posted: July 20 2002,10:02 pm

I find that people use "a phase" to make themselves feel more comfortable.

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Columbine
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Posted: July 21 2002,10:52 am

I've been around so long that not only my mother knows I am who I am honestly, but even the people I used to hang out with locally who have moved on other interests - mostly jobs, TV, and techno music - have even gotten over the fact that some people change over time and some don't so much.

I think the whole "phase" thing has been used as a belittlement for so long that now people who really do decide they're tired of what they've been doing cut off their old friendships out of discomfort rather than admit that they were just "trying something on for a while."  It's really too bad, because how are you going to know what you like if you don't taste a bit of everything that's on your plate?

People do grow and change.  I've been a shadowchild all along, but I've calmed down a lot and gotten my temper under control.  Some people respect me more for that, and some think I've become a spineless wuss - but in either case, it's their business, not mine!  Likewise, I know people who have lost all interest in the darker side of things, but are still really cool people whose company I enjoy, and I wish they'd calm down about feeling like "traitors" to the dark side.  They got their fill and moved on - not everyone's cut out to like the darkness best, and that's totally natural!  But I often despair of finding a way to express it without sounding like I'm putting them down.

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Maiken
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Posted: July 21 2002,11:29 am

I get disgusted with the people who describe my religious beliefs as a "phase"--I'm pagan/Wiccan, and there are people out there who can't handle that...my family used to say it was "one of her [my] phases", while to me it was a life-altering spiritual awakening...however, after about 5 years now, they're realizing it's not "just a phase"...I've been fortunate enough to have my family come around and respect my spiritual beliefs; my Mom will actually defend my belief system, because she thinks it's wonderful for me to have a religion that matters to me...So many of those people that spout their religious teachings need to start LIVING them before they press them on others...ok, ok, Maiken, enough soapbox... :lickout:



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AGirl
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Posted: July 21 2002,8:43 pm

I think people who use the phrase "it's just a phase" honestly think that their interests and beliefs will never change.  I feel bad for people like that, but I guess it takes all kinds of people to keep the world turning.

As for my family, well, we're catholic, so we're all sort of death obsessed in a way.  ;)

My friends just roll their eyes, or think my morbid interests are just cute and quirky...my boyfriend says I'm "goth on the inside".

I guess to me it doesn't matter what anyone thinks because I've always been stubbornly insistent on doing what I want to.  I remember a time when I did things to improve people's perception of me, but now I'm like, eh.  Think what you want.

Jen

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