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Topic: How Does Your Family Feel?, How do your nearest/dearest feel about your 'dark side'?
Columbine
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Posted: June 18 2002,9:27 am

My mother just laughed at my interests when I was a little kid, convinced it was a "phase" and that I'd get over it.

I'm 41.

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Isa Black
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Posted: June 18 2002,10:20 am

Columbine - a while ago, when I was 11/12 years old, my mom used to think this was just a phase, well, I'm still 17, but now she doesn't think it's a phase anymore ;)

(Edited by Isa Black at 10:20 am on June 18, 2002)

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TalN
The Puchan Quark


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Posted: June 18 2002,2:28 pm

Not to discourage anyone, but in the world of mainstream commerce it is wise to not necessarily hide this aspect of oneself, but certainly do not flaunt it.  All the righteousness of your intent and laws to the contrary, you can find yourself unemployed.   At the very least you can sometimes experience concrete obstacles to performance of your job.   Even as secure as my position was, and as kinky as my colleagues knew I was in other arenas, last year's visit to the the House of Death with associates from my office had a detrimental effect on my resources and contact within the company later.
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Don't deny your truth, but be cautious where and to whom you reveal it.


BTW - Don't worry gang, I eventually found better avenues within the company than the paranoid person who freaked out over all this. :skullgrin:


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daoine o
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Posted: June 18 2002,5:16 pm

Yes, TalN, I agree, and I've made it a point to not let on too much about my personal life when in work environs.  I think they can sense I'm 'not like most', however, and that has caused problems in the area of 'team-playerism' that is so prevalent in business now.  Yuckyuckyuck.  If I wanted to be on a 'team', I'd go be a baseball player or something.  I'm an employee, not a 'team-mate'.  Gee, maybe that's one of the reasons why I'm still unemployed; that I refuse to play their 'reindeer games' when all I want to do is do my own job and do it well, and do it *by myself*!?  But (of course), I digress.  We were talking about family...  :biggrin:

As far as how my family handles me, well, after all these years, they've grown used to me and my eccentricities...I've been into 'different', esoteric things and lifestyles most of my life, but since becoming an 'adult' at 18 and moving on to my own life, they've pretty much accepted that I will never be like, say, my sister, who went to college, got her Master's, got married, had a kid, etc.

They aren't wholeheartedly behind much of my interests, or don't fully understand them, but they want me to be happy, and so they 'live and let live'.

Even now, at age 38, I'm still figuring out a lot about who I am and what I want out of life, but being boring and normal will never be a part of it, of that I'm sure!  :cheesy:

:asthanos:  <--- just like the song... "i gotta be me, i gotta be me..."



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danial
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Posted: June 18 2002,9:20 pm

I'm not even sure what normal is.  Like I said earlier, I believe acting in line with your true, inner convictions makes life worthwhile.  :stimpy:

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TalN
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Posted: June 19 2002,2:12 pm

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Quote: from danial on 9:20 pm on June 18, 2002
I'm not even sure what normal is.   :stimpy:

Choronzon333's last post in Occult/Esoteric about "Tired of going into the light" sums up my thoughts about what is "normal".  

:disturbed:  Oh nooooo, not NORMAL!"  :silly:


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lilith
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Posted: June 29 2002,11:23 am

I keep people guessing about me.Exactlly the way I like it!
I have been called all kinds of names my whole life,from morbid mary to  Creepy Crypt seeker! I just laughed at all that and  kept my business to myself.My mom just keeps praying for me.......that I find the funniest of all!

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Columbine
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Posted: June 29 2002,2:09 pm

You know, I used to think that people who are mean to those who think for themselves did it out of envy - they're jealous of people who have the guts to who live as who they truly are.

But now I think it's worse than that.  They're jealous of us for actually having selves to be!  They're terrified that they're just empty holograms walking around obeying the rules that have been ground into them since the day they were born.

They might be right.  At least some of them, anyway.

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THE DARK ANGEL
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Posted: June 29 2002,11:47 pm

My family used to think I needed psychiatric care.  But heh I don't.  Have a dark streak a mile wide....all my life but when I went into a severe depression...whoa!!!!  I sometimes scared myself.  Wouldn't take meds.  Now my family understands me better and don't fear that I will be takin' my life anytime soon.  My daughter says when it gets to Saturday..."Mom's gonna hang with the dead."  ;)  Isn't that cool???  I usually don't care what people think about me...but I do care how my two kids view me.  I love them dearly.

Love,
 darky

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Columbine
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Posted: June 30 2002,12:26 pm

I once had a school guidance counselor try to convince me to join the competition for popularity - dress & talk more like the others, join clubs, and all that.  I casually mentioned to my mother that I thought Miss Fulton was really nice but I didn't understand why she thought I'd enjoy the shallow popularity game.

Well, my mother went and visited her at the school for a friendly chat, social worker to social worker.  She explained to Miss Fulton that I was a happy kid, always singing and joking; that I slept well, ate like a horse, and hardly ever got sick; and that I consistently got good grades - in short, that there was nothing wrong with me at all.  :laugh:

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