Joined: Feb. 2013
|Posted: Mar. 13 2013,11:27 am
|Quote (Nebulae Architect @ May 28 2010,2:47 pm)|
|Quote (Leilah @ Oct. 09 2008,9:07pm)|
|Donna, while I feel for your loss, you cannot and should not call your love ones back for your OWN needs. THEIR needs are paramount and their journey takes precedence over your grief. |
I KNOW the pain is hard to bear, but your love for them is what should guide you. It is their time to evolve, to move on. Give them your best wishes and all your hopes and wish them safe journey. I hate to sound like a cliche, but "if you love someone, let them go."
Your pain is strong, but your love for them MUST be stronger. To call them back would be to impede their journey for your OWN needs. In time, the pain will pass and they WILL return to you...when you are ready to hear what they have to impart, which is obviously NOT at this point because your own pain overshadows their joy.....
Be happy for their release! Feel their peace and it may help to allay your sorrow. Words are just that.....but time will show the way. Do not perforce guilt upon those you love. They have eraned their crowning achievement. Let them go home with your kind blessing and they will always be with you.
How TRUE nad beautifully expressed, Lelilah!
I am originally from Bulgaria, moved to the UK in January 2008 and have had many oppressive moments of utter solitude since... Lat year I went through a short period when I would feel like I am LITERALLY obsessed with thoughts about numerous familiar people having left this world and I really didn't know what was happening... I have felt like that about LIVING people (mostly from my distant past) and have always explained this as a sign that I would either meet them or that I was standing on the verge of a very big change... But... DEAD people!! What the... ? Later on I got in touch with a lovely family here in London and according to them this was meant to be a message that I might be alone in the physical world but on the SPIRITUAL world the spirits of these people who I had such obtrusive thoughts of would be around me all the time in order to protect me... And, as I pondered a bit, I gradually got to believe it, as all these people (some of them very close relatives, others brand new friends) were ALL well-disposed to me while being here on Earth...
Nothing ever disappears, for real!!
Absolutely! I understand what you mean about being alone on the physical plane but guided or kept company by those who have gone before. I feel that with my ancestors. I had posted in a different forum about wanting to hear from them for my own benefit and I know that is not how it works. I think when I experience the Ancestors it is more like an energy pool than their actual soul coming to worry about what is happening on the physical plane even though I feel like they guide me and my family when the going gets tough. I know that if someone ever called me back from the next step of my journey, I would not be happy. This is why I don't call the spirits to me. I wouldn't want to be called for trivial things, but to those who grieve for me I would wish them comfort and acceptance for sure.
I had to read back through the whole thread so I know what's going on. I know it's been a while and I'm new here but Lady Azraelina: Wherever you may be right now I hope you have found or are finding peace and acceptance for your lose.
@Azraels Friend: I agree with you that it helps to do something like you mentioned like write poems and songs to those whom we loved that have crossed over. It is us who are left behind that have the burden of grief and have to get through the pain of our loved ones being gone from our eyes. They may be gone from our eyes but never from our hearts.